Top 9 Signs your Spouse is cheating.

You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can't quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation. You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don't have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don’t confuse signs with proof. 1. I love you but am not in love with you: get worried when you hear these words. 2.We are just friends: a cheat always says this about the new friend you accuse him/her of cheating with. Your partner already believes This new friend understands them and know what they are going through. This is a warning you need to take seriously. 3.Sudden need for privacy: stuffs that both of you used to do together now become something he/she wants to do alone. He or she may start password protecting phone or laptop activities and when you ask why they accuse you of snooping around or trying to control their life. Big warning sign. 4."I need some space to figure out my feelings":Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom. 5. Regular work habits change. Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating. 6. Spending more time on the phone/computer: in this time and age one Does not need to go out to cheat when there's online dating et al. There's bbm,facebook, chat rooms and even the ease of creating secret email accounts has caused a lot breakups in relationships/marriage. If your spouse is spending enormous time in chat rooms or pornographic sites,then you need to be alarmed. 7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone. Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check his phone records. 8. Behaviours that just don't add up: when your spouse starts being absent at where he/she should be or start telling lies that don't add up, receipt for stuffs you don't own or he doesn't own too,clothes or other items being found in the house or car an being caught about little lies of the way the day went. One needs to worry. 9. Your Own fears and suspicions If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse's behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then talk to him/her about what you've found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also. Culled from Cathy Meyer ( divorce support guide)